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Real weddings… Steph & Tom

Bears & Butterflies | Real weddings | Image: Matt Parry

Today we have a beautiful wedding to share with you from one of our couples. Steph and Tom got married in June at Cold Harbour Barn – a fabulous spot in Oxfordshire. All images are by Matt Parry. If you’d like to find out more about the venue or other suppliers mentioned, their links are at the bottom.

Over to Steph…

Who proposed to who – and how?

Tom proposed on 01/11/15- firework weekend on the side of White Horse Hill, Uffington whilst watching the fireworks across the county from its high viewing point. Tom prepared himself to ask the question and then he drop the torch which rolled down the steep hill! After a small delay, the question was asked and the reply is clear to see!

Bears & Butterflies | Real weddings | Image: Matt Parry

Bears & Butterflies | Real weddings | Image: Matt Parry

What were your hopes and vision for your wedding day?

A day without rain and lots of family and friends with us!

How did you decide on your venue?

It was easy. The venue was a 5 minute walk from the stables where I kept my horse and the barn was beautiful, full of beams and character. We also had the benefit of being able to dress it exactly how we liked! The barn is positioned at the foot of the Ridgeway in the most rural location.

What made you decide on your décor and style for the day?

Tom will say he had no choice! I love soft pastel pinks and my florist did a fabulous job of keeping the flowers in keeping with our vintage/ homemade theme.

Bears & Butterflies | Real weddings | Image: Matt Parry

How did you find and choose your suppliers?

The venue had its recommended suppliers but we decided on some others and the venue were extremely supportive of this. We did a lot of research and narrowed it down to those that fitted around our wishes and desires for the day.

How did you both find the planning process?

Tom was not the most organised. I did the majority while on maternity leave having had our baby daughter Darcey the November before. My Mum and Dad were also amazing in helping with contributions towards all the different elements and ensuring things were booked well in advance.

Bears & Butterflies | Real weddings | Image: Matt Parry

What was your favourite moment of the big day?

That’s very hard to choose! Tom dreaded the first dance (with his two left feet) but I think the speeches were wonderful as all the feelings and emotions that normally go unspoken really hit home! It also hammered with rain but this strangely added to the memory. Everyone was inside the barn, creating an intense and close atmosphere. We also used Bears and Butterflies to hire bell tents for camping, which looked stunning. They added to the character of our surroundings and encouraged over 60 guests to camp the night and join us for a BBQ breakfast the morning after!

Bears & Butterflies | Real weddings | Image: Matt Parry

Bears & Butterflies | Real weddings | Image: Matt Parry

Who were your caterers? What food did you have?

Oxford Hog Roasters. Oliver who runs the business is extremely professional. We chose from a wide variety of options to produce an afternoon tea selection for guests for the wedding breakfast and we then had a great hog roast in the evening. He also had the most amazing canapés!

How did you choose your band for the evening?

After lots of Google research we chose the band Echo Beach. They were incredible and everyone said how fantastic they were. Highly recommended.

What advice would you give to brides and grooms-to-be? 

Plan well in advance and look around- it’s your big day so don’t be flexible for the benefit of suppliers. Anything is possible so if you want it your way, there is usually a way to make it happen. Weddings aren’t cheap and if you are paying a high price, suppliers usually won’t want your business to go elsewhere.

Bears & Butterflies | Real weddings | Image: Matt Parry


Venue: Cold Harbour Barn, Ginge, Wantage

Photographer: Matt Parry

Catering: Oxford Hog Roasters

Flowers: Kate Finegan Floral Design

Crockery: China Roses Crockery Hire

Band: Echo Beach

Bell tents: Bears and Butterflies

Bears & Butterflies | Real weddings | Image: Matt Parry